4 Ways a Divorce Can Improve Your Life

A divorce can be many things. Painful, messy, long. People talk about the downsides, the loss of stability, the costs, trying to divide everything between spouses, but there are upsides to divorce that are rarely discussed.

You’re more confident in relationships

Lori Bizzoco believes that: “After divorce, you’re more confident about the type of partner you want and don’t want.”

Having been in a long-term relationship, you’re more experienced and aware of what you want and more capable of weeding out potential partners who are not suitable for you.

It improves your physical and mental health

Being in a bad relationship will have a negative impact on your health. Steve Roy, writing with Single Fit Dad: “I remember being so unhappy that I literally didn’t want to do anything. I just wanted to crawl into a hole and sit there… I didn’t eat well. I rarely exercised. And I only did what I had to do to pay the bills and get through my day.

“Not the way to live. And to be very honest, I truly believe that had I stayed in my marriage, I would have died early. I think the enormous stress, a lack of personal care, and a disregard for my health and well-being would have led to an early heart attack or something similar.”

Toxic relationships can destroy you emotionally, which has an effect for the rest of your life. By getting out of such a relationship, you’re removing a major stressor and taking control back.

You find out who your real friends are

Relationship expert April Masini discovered that: “people you thought had your back ‘go with’ your ex… they weren’t your real friends to begin with, and now you don’t have to waste time with them.”

It’s unfortunate that people pick sides in such cases, but try to see the positive side of it. Depending on your individual circumstances, you may very well have dodged a serious bullet, and now you can focus on your real friends and find new ones.

It forces you to work on yourself

Whether you are a housewife who has to (re)enter the workforce to support yourself and your children, or a professional who needs to compensate for a sudden change, divorce can be the catalyst for major change. Divorce provides an opportunity to reset your life, often forcefully, and drives you to be better than you were before.

Whether her husband was Mr Fix-It or your wife cooked all your meals, now you have to make dinner or do the laundry. Magalie, 38, says: “A huge dresser I ordered arrived the week my husband left… I pulled out my dad’s old tools and decided no matter how long it took I was going to assemble that dresser. It took forever, but I did it! That dresser was a metaphor for my life at the time: I could build it on my own.”

Considering Getting a Divorce? Consult a Divorce Lawyer

As you can see, getting a divorce can improve the quality of your life. However, before you decide to get a divorce, you should first consult a professional divorce lawyer. At Fine & Associates, we will guide you through the divorce process in the most timely and affordable way possible while advocating for you during your time of need.

If you’ve reached a point of no return, contact our family law lawyers for assistance.