Separating During COVID-19: 5 Things to Consider
The added stress and anxiety caused by the COVID-19 pandemic has taken its toll on many Canadian marriages, and we have certainly seen an increase in the number of separations and divorces. But separating during a pandemic brings its own challenges. The following are a few things that you should consider if you are going through a separation during COVID:
1. Consider your divorce options
Most divorces in Canada are not messy court battles. Negotiations between lawyers are the most traditional approach, but it is not your only option. In many cases, they can be handled by a neutral third-party mediator who will help guide discussions with your ex. Another process called collaborative divorce involves teams of specialists working together toward a settlement. A family lawyer can help you decide which approach is best for your situation.
And while many family law practices are now open to in-person meetings, most still have options to meet virtually if you are uncomfortable going into their law office.
2. Consider your living situation
One of the biggest challenges some couples are facing during COVID-19 separations is their living situation. The combination of lockdowns and rising home prices have made it difficult for some partners to leave, so separating couples may find themselves still living under the same roof. Living with your ex is not only stressful, but it can interfere with boundaries.
Some options to consider are renting or buying a new place (if you can afford it) or temporarily moving in with a friend or family member.
3. Consider finances
Many people have been furloughed or lost their jobs or businesses during the pandemic. If this is the case for you or your ex (or both), it will factor into how much child or spousal support might be required as part of the divorce agreement.
It is important to share this financial information with your family lawyer so that they can help structure a fair agreement.
4. Consider how you will co-parent in lockdown
Co-parenting can be a challenge in the best of times, but there are some unique factors to consider during a pandemic. For example, what will be your plan for schooling if there is another lockdown? Do you have a plan in place should you or your ex become ill?
It is a good idea to work out these scenarios with your ex now so that you will be better prepared should the need arise.
5. Consider your own mental health
Separation and divorce are always stressful (even if it is amicable), and separation during a pandemic may be even more so. So, it’s essential to take care of your mental health. Talk to a counsellor if you need to or engage in acts of self-care, such as taking the time to read a good book, connect with a friend, or go for a walk in nature.
By taking care of your mental health, you will feel better physically as well.
Contact Fine & Associates today
Going through a separation or divorce is tough, but our family lawyers in Toronto, Markham and Oakville are here to help you through it and to ensure that your rights are protected. Contact us today to schedule a consultation.