Being Responsible Parents After Divorce

Unfortunately post separation issues can still pop up after a divorce is long over. For some, it may seem like the turmoil of divorce will seemingly never end. Many families discover a whole new set of problems when one parent or both move on and start new families. The creation of the new family often creates tension and emotional havoc upon the existing children.

Inevitable Issues When Families Merge

It is common for divorced parents to move on and remarry, often there are already other children or new ones are born. It can be quite a challenge to merge these families without emotional consequences on the children involved.

Dealing With Adjustment

Children must learn to adapt to change. Unfortunately, some parents do not make it easy to do so. As adults we often take for granted that children can keep up with things on an adult level and roll with the punches. This is simply not true and this is when adjustments in visitation and living arrangements may arise as a result of turmoil when families merge. Many parents take their children to counseling in hopes that it will help.

Getting Help Before Remarrying Can Make a Difference

Though counseling may make things better at first it does not always solve the real issues at hand. Children need help adjusting to their new families, the new rules, the idea of their parents moving on, as well as adjust to how their other parent views this new family. This is why families should try to work together through counseling before new relationships are set in stone.

Parents Need to Work Together

Though the idea of an ex remarrying may be painful, it is important that parents pull together and make the situation best for all involved. All adults involved should make an attempt to learn everything they can about how to make the family merger as easy as possible for children. Taking the time to learn how to help children adjust can help prevent a lot of future problems.

Allowing Time to Adjust

Giving children a chance to acclimate to the idea of having a step parent and possibly siblings can make a tremendous difference. Spending time working out differences before jumping into a new marriage is best for all involved. For many children the idea of mom or dad seeing someone else is hard enough to handle, but when they remarry a whole new bomb gets dropped upon them.

While it is not wise to let children rule the roost, parents need to remember how sensitive children are to divorce and remarriage. When parents ensure their children’s emotional welfare is thought of first, children tend to adjust easier. By seeking post separation education and counseling, many families have been able to adjust and even go on living rather happy lives.

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