The Canadian Paediatric Society Offers Some Hints to Help Children through Divorce
Going through a divorce is an emotionally painful and stressful time. It can be even worse if there are children involved.
The Canadian Paediatric Society has come up with some tips to help children whose parents are going through a separation or a divorce. Read on to learn the best steps to take for your child right now.
What to Do During a Separation
Many couples separate before going through a divorce. They might also decide after the separation that they will reconcile.
The idea of separation can be frightening to children, as it is a very different paradigm for them. You can make it less scary by telling your children how much you and their other parent love them. It is also very important to let them know that they are not the cause of the separation.
Separation is a hugely disruptive force. You can help your children with the transition by keeping the rest of their schedule as consistent and normal as possible. And as long as your spouse isn’t abusive or dangerous, allowing your child to visit him or her during the separation will make the situation a little easier.
Another thing to do is allow your child to grieve. Knowing that your parents are about to divorce is upsetting. Let your child talk to you about his or her feelings and listen without interrupting.
What to Do During a Divorce
It is important not to stop doing the things you did during the separation period after the divorce, such as maintaining a normal schedule and listening carefully and compassionately to your children. In addition to those actions, there are other steps you should take to help your child adjust to divorce.
One of those things is to act with civility towards your ex-spouse. He or she is still your child’s parent, and it is painful for your child to listen to you criticize his mother or father. When you see your ex-spouse, be polite.
Sometimes, the best action to take is none at all. This is especially true when your child comes back from visiting your ex-spouse. Don’t badger him or her for information, and don’t interrogate your child about your ex’s friends, romantic partners or income. If your child wants to share those details, that’s fine. But, it’s not your place to pry.
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