Conflict Levels During Separation or Divorce

The effects of divorce and separation can be far-reaching. Not only do these situations have an impact on the couple involved, but they also have a significant impact on the children of the couple. Studies show that adults whose parents separated or divorced have a greater chance of enduring the same fate. In addition to this, research has found that if there is high parental conflict during divorce or separation the more negative the outcomes will be on the children. It is important for parents going through a divorce or separation to balance their conflict with the potential consequences on their children.

Levels of Conflict During Separation

Experts rate conflict during such a time of separation as low, medium, or high.

Low Conflict

Parents who are able to navigate the separation by themselves generally have a low level of conflict. These parents are the ones who can sit down and discuss the dividing of assets and a custody plan for the kids without outside help.

Medium Conflict

Parents who attempt to settle matters between themselves find that their behavior may spiral out of control and they are unable to effectively communicate and come to any agreements. Outside resources, such as a friend, attorney, clergy, family, or a mediator are needed to settle matters in couples who have a medium conflict level. With the proper resources and support, parents in a medium level of conflict are able to come to a mutual agreement over custody and assets.

High Conflict

Couples who cannot settle their affairs on their own or with the help of outside resources are in a high level of conflict. These are the couples who turn to the courts for help with their disagreements. Even if an agreement or settlement is reached, the fact that the courts had to be used places this couple in the high conflict level.

Separations and Kids

We all want to shelter and protect our children. However, in a separation or divorce situation, it is impossible. Sheltering kids only leads to more stress on the parents, which in turn leads to stress on the children. Instead, parents should find ways to help the children cope with the situation and conflict. Parents should acknowledge what is going on and the stress that is causing. However, it is important to do this without speaking badly about the other parent. Children should be reassured that they are still loved and wanted, and that the parents are working to find a resolution to the problem that works best for everyone.

Finding ways to amicably resolve the conflict and being open and honest with children will help parents come out on top in stressful family situations. If you need help navigating your way through a divorce or separation, contact the family lawyers at Fine and Associates. We understand the hardships you may be facing and are here to help you through this challenging and stressful time of separation and divorce.

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