How to Divide Time with Your Kids BEFORE the Custody Agreement
If you’re a parent going through a divorce, you’re already aware of how your kids can be a source of contention. The situation can be even worse if you haven’t signed a custody agreement yet. However, this doesn’t have to lead to arguments. Read on to learn how to divide time with your children before you sign the custody agreement.
Putting Your Children’s Needs First
Unless there is a clear and compelling reason why your ex-spouse shouldn’t have visitation rights (or custodial rights), there’s no reason your children can’t see him or her.
Moreover, your kids want to see your ex-spouse. So, no matter how combative divorce proceedings have become, you and your ex are going to have to come to some kind of agreement about how often he or she will see the kids before a legal arrangement comes into force.
There are several things you’ll need to keep in mind. Both you and your ex will need to take into account which parent the children currently live with and what the home environment is like there. You’ll also need to factor in the other parent’s relationship with the kids, as well as each child’s personality and needs.
These are the same things the court will consider when ruling on a custody agreement. The sooner you figure out how to handle visitation rights, the smoother things will go.
Coming to an Agreement
What if you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can’t even sit in the same room together without arguing loudly and at length?
If that’s the situation, consider working with a third-party mediator. Mediators are professionals who help two parties reach agreements. A mediator is impartial and unbiased – he or she isn’t on anyone’s side. How does he or she do it? The mediator’s goal is to get the two parties to compromise. This means reducing the emotional value of the issues being discussed and emphasizing the facts of the case.
Are You Looking for Legal Help for Handling Child Custody?
During this difficult time, divorcing parties will typically turn to a family lawyer for help. The legal process is complicated and emotionally charged, and an experienced and compassionate attorney can ensure that your needs are met.
At Fine & Associates, we have helped countless fathers through the divorce process, and strive for the best outcome for children. Learn more about our child custody services, and fill out the form to request a free consultation.