The Effects Divorce Has on Men That Nobody Talks About

Did you know that divorced men are 39 percent more likely to commit suicide and engage in risky behaviour than married men? This startling fact is not talked about enough. divorced men are 39 percent more likely to commit suicide and engage in risky behaviour than married men? This startling fact is not talked about enough.

While the media portrays some divorced men as lonely or struggling to pay alimony, the effects can be much deeper than simple loneliness or financial struggles. There has been a lot written lately that suggests divorce may be harder on men than has been previously assumed. Here are a few of the effects men experience.

Divorce Effects on Men: Losing their Partner

Of course, men facing a divorce will experience loneliness. But they may not be prepared for the sense of loss they could feel. It goes beyond simple companionship as men often lose their primary confidante and source of emotional support when they separate from their wives.

According to Psychology Today, “men may be more emotionally dependent on their romantic partners and have fewer alternative sources of support. When asked who they would turn to first if they were feeling depressed, 71% of men selected their wife whereas only 39% of women selected their husband.”

Obviously men have friends, but if they’re married, they tend not to rely on their friends for support. They usually turn to their wives for the emotional issues in their lives and following a divorce, men are not likely to seek that counsel from others.

Losing their Life Coach

For many married men, their wives are the instigators and motivators of healthy habits. Without that positive influence, divorced men can spiral into unhealthy habits in a hurry. They are more likely to turn to drugs, alcohol, and tobacco as a coping mechanism.

In some cases, these could be new habits. But for other men, the behaviour is a little more complicated. Picking up the smoking habit again or drinking more could be seen as a reclamation of their independence, particularly if their exes had encouraged them to quit. While seeking independence is necessary following a divorce, these habits can be self-destructive.

Losing their Identity

Being a husband and dad are serious jobs, and will often define who you are as a person. Men can take great pride in these roles. Then, divorce happens and those roles either end or change drastically. Separation and divorce can lead to men not knowing who they are anymore. This struggle to redefine themselves could explain why so many divorced men dive into their careers, or develop some unhealthy habits.

Are You Facing a Possible Divorce?

One of the worst parts of the divorce process is feeling like you’re going through it alone. Facing an uncertain future adds to this already difficult time. Get the help you need by consulting a family law professional. Your lawyer will work with you to protect your rights while ensuring your divorce is as stress-free as possible.

At Fine & Associates, we treat every client with respect and dignity. We can help by showing you all of your options, and working in a compassionate way to protect your future. Contact us today.