Parental Separation and Conflict

Conflict between parents who are separated is inevitable. Take the issues already at hand, add in litigious lawyers who make their side believe they can win, and you have quite the recipe for conflict and problems to develop. Lawyers will tell each parent to document any questionable and poor behavior on their other parent’s part, as well as good behavior on their own part. Parents end up hating each other even more than when they started the process and their innocent offspring are stuck in the middle of a fiery custody battle.

Increased Conflict

Parental separation and conflicts over child custody are far too common. If lawyers do not see this situation as adding fuel to the fire, more problems will arise. An assessor will likely be brought into the picture. The lawyers for the party the assessor does not favor will attack the assessor and their credibility in court. A resolution is far from being reached as now the problem is even broader. Sadly, in addition, the children are affected greatly. Many children in the middle of such a dispute have problems in one or all of the following areas:

• Socially
• Emotionally
• Mentally
• Behaviorally
• Academically

Once parents start to pick up on the problems the children are facing, they blame the other parent, further escalating the dispute.

Solving the Conflict

In a very different scenario, the dispute between parents can be handled with the goal of achieving an agreeable settlement for all interested parties involved. In this situation, lawyers work with their clients to come to a negotiated settlement by discovering the true problems and finding workable solutions. This is quite different than stirring up the conflict, which some litigious lawyers do. Lawyers working towards a settlement will help their clients understand and discover how both parents can come to agreements for the best interests of their children. When the parents can work out their problems for the betterment of the children, everyone wins. If needed, lawyers can request the help of social workers and counselors in order to come to a mutual agreement.

Above all, what is best for the children should be the goal. Dealing with parental disagreements and disputes in the best way possible should be the job of any experienced and qualified lawyer. Beginning with the end in mind can help calm disputes and fears. The Toronto divorce law and family lawyers of Fine and Associates are here to help you in this way. No matter where you are in your separation or divorce journey, we have the experts to come along side you and work with you to find the best possible solution for everyone involved. Let us help you during this difficult life transition and time of conflict.